Men seem to treat their old girlfriends like security blankets.
Literally, when men have nothing better "to do" they come running back to women they just left.
Maybe men have short-term memories. Or maybe men second guess their decisions to leave.
But maybe men are relying on the fact that you once said you loved them, and they want to exploit those old feelings, because they can. When the night is over, they'll be gone and you end up feeling used.
That's why you have to cut off ex-boyfriends forever.
Just remember you will survive, so change your stupid lock and make your ex leave his key.
Friday, February 24, 2006
Ms. Jones
Why was "Bridget Jones's Diary" such a popular movie? Because it is true to life for a lot of women. They are worried about their weight, yet they can't curb their eating. A few extra pounds and looking for love - because there is nothing worse than spending your life alone.
As Bridget Jones says so well:
"I suddenly realized that unless some thing changed soon, I was going to live a life where my major relationship was with a bottle of wine and I'd finally die fat and alone and be found three weeks later, half-eaten by wild dogs."
Like Bridget, many women picture their wedding to a guy as soon as he expresses an interest.
If men want to understand the unspoken thoughts of many women, watch Bridget Jones's Diary. You might not like it, but it's true. A lot of women are secretly that neurotic, if only in their heads.
As Bridget Jones says so well:
"I suddenly realized that unless some thing changed soon, I was going to live a life where my major relationship was with a bottle of wine and I'd finally die fat and alone and be found three weeks later, half-eaten by wild dogs."
Like Bridget, many women picture their wedding to a guy as soon as he expresses an interest.
If men want to understand the unspoken thoughts of many women, watch Bridget Jones's Diary. You might not like it, but it's true. A lot of women are secretly that neurotic, if only in their heads.
Thursday, February 23, 2006
Hugs and Kisses
Why is it the one day you sleep in, skip the shower and deodorant to get to work on time, is the one day the guy you like gives you a big holiday hug?
Animal Attraction
When you meet a guy at a pet store and he's buying a big bag of dog food and you're buying a big bag of cat food, can the relationship really work out?
Clearly he's a dog person and you a cat person. Cats and dogs don't get along.
When there's a fundamental lifestyle difference or opinion should you still give the person a chance?
Should a non-smoker try to date a smoker? Can someone from the political left date someone from the political right? Should someone who wants to have kids date someone who doesn't?
These are the deal breakers.
Now a person can get rid of their cat or their dog. And a smoker can quit. But that's a long way to go for love, if it is indeed love.
And why give up a loyal pal, such as your cat, who has been with you through more boyfriends and break ups than you care to remember.
You and your pet are a package deal. Or are they?
Clearly he's a dog person and you a cat person. Cats and dogs don't get along.
When there's a fundamental lifestyle difference or opinion should you still give the person a chance?
Should a non-smoker try to date a smoker? Can someone from the political left date someone from the political right? Should someone who wants to have kids date someone who doesn't?
These are the deal breakers.
Now a person can get rid of their cat or their dog. And a smoker can quit. But that's a long way to go for love, if it is indeed love.
And why give up a loyal pal, such as your cat, who has been with you through more boyfriends and break ups than you care to remember.
You and your pet are a package deal. Or are they?
Wednesday, February 22, 2006
Drugs
"Maybe all men are a drug. Sometimes they get you down and sometimes they get you so high!" - Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City
Tuesday, February 21, 2006
Decision
"Be sure of your choices; you're stuck with them forever." - Life's Little Instruction Calendar Volume XI
Talk about pressure. Yikes! No room for error.
That's why life is a learning game.
Talk about pressure. Yikes! No room for error.
That's why life is a learning game.
Go away. Go away. Go away.
There are some ex-boyfriends who should just drop off the face of the planet. It would just be better for all those involved.
Like the ex-boyfriend who occasionally sends you little tokens in the mail out of the blue. Is it to show you that they still think about you? Or do they just want to see what sort of emotions they can still evoke?
Seeing their name on an envelope can make your heart stop, even if you haven't thought about them in months.
And then you call them to thank them and they tell you that they got their new girlfriend to mail it.
All they wanted to do is pick off the scabs and rub salt in the wounds. What next are they going to stab you in the heart? Oh wait. They ripped that out long ago.
Sadistic bastards like that are those that should really, really drop off the face of the planet.
Like the ex-boyfriend who occasionally sends you little tokens in the mail out of the blue. Is it to show you that they still think about you? Or do they just want to see what sort of emotions they can still evoke?
Seeing their name on an envelope can make your heart stop, even if you haven't thought about them in months.
And then you call them to thank them and they tell you that they got their new girlfriend to mail it.
All they wanted to do is pick off the scabs and rub salt in the wounds. What next are they going to stab you in the heart? Oh wait. They ripped that out long ago.
Sadistic bastards like that are those that should really, really drop off the face of the planet.
Monday, February 20, 2006
A way of life.
For athletes, their sport is their way of life.
I'm not a high performance athlete like those in the Olympics, but I do train karate three to four times a week.
There's only so much you can learn and you learn that very quickly. You spend the rest of your life trying to perfect those "basics." And that's all there is to most sports.
Yeah, practice can be tedious. And, amazingly, you can push past injury like nobody's business.
Athletes get hurt all the time. They get torn whatevers and broken bones. They won't let a little injury slow them down. I used to think that was crazy, until I lost my toenail in a match. Although it hurt, I didn't flinch and kept on going. Adrenaline has a lot to do with it, as well as a neurotic need to keep on going no matter what. I can't explain it.
Sport can be like an addiction. You don't want to give it up for one night, even to let an injury heel.
Although, someone got their tooth knocked through their lip in karate this weekend. I don't know if I can handle that one.
I'm not a high performance athlete like those in the Olympics, but I do train karate three to four times a week.
There's only so much you can learn and you learn that very quickly. You spend the rest of your life trying to perfect those "basics." And that's all there is to most sports.
Yeah, practice can be tedious. And, amazingly, you can push past injury like nobody's business.
Athletes get hurt all the time. They get torn whatevers and broken bones. They won't let a little injury slow them down. I used to think that was crazy, until I lost my toenail in a match. Although it hurt, I didn't flinch and kept on going. Adrenaline has a lot to do with it, as well as a neurotic need to keep on going no matter what. I can't explain it.
Sport can be like an addiction. You don't want to give it up for one night, even to let an injury heel.
Although, someone got their tooth knocked through their lip in karate this weekend. I don't know if I can handle that one.
Lesbians
Why do guys always, at some point, have to bring up the idea of a threesome?
That is so uncool.
If the girl is really into you, she doesn't want to share. And if she ends up playing the supporting role, while the other girl stars, you better watch out. Because someone in a threesome always has to play the supporting role, like that's fun.
And guys, if it's not cool for you to do a threesome with another guy and a girl, then why do you think it would be cool for a girl to do it with another girl and a guy?
Haven't you ever seen the movie "Threesome" or "Chasing Amy?" It will just make the relationship awkward.
A threesome is a fantasy. And that's the way it should stay - a fantasy.
Plus, where are you going to get the second girl from? I mean, really. You? You had enough trouble getting the girl you have to sleep with you.
That is so uncool.
If the girl is really into you, she doesn't want to share. And if she ends up playing the supporting role, while the other girl stars, you better watch out. Because someone in a threesome always has to play the supporting role, like that's fun.
And guys, if it's not cool for you to do a threesome with another guy and a girl, then why do you think it would be cool for a girl to do it with another girl and a guy?
Haven't you ever seen the movie "Threesome" or "Chasing Amy?" It will just make the relationship awkward.
A threesome is a fantasy. And that's the way it should stay - a fantasy.
Plus, where are you going to get the second girl from? I mean, really. You? You had enough trouble getting the girl you have to sleep with you.
Sunday, February 19, 2006
The benefit to being a girl...
"Whenever I want a really nice meal, I start dating again." - Susan Healy
And the meal is usually free.
And the meal is usually free.
Unwelcome News!
When being single, and having to face up to the usual family Christmas conversation that revolves around the spinster-tragedy that is your life, there is no worse news than that from a recently engaged colleague.
She writes: "I am so happy. I hope everyone's holidays are going as well as mine."Rub it in a little more.
She writes: "I am so happy. I hope everyone's holidays are going as well as mine."Rub it in a little more.
Saturday, February 18, 2006
Guys, once and a while...
1. Buy a girl flowers for no reason at all.
2. Tell the girl you like her just the way she is and mean it. (You better mean it, otherwise why are you dating her?)
3. Give her a hug when she has a bad day.
4. Make her supper and bake a cake too.
5. Take her somewhere to do something she has never tried before . . . like rock climbing.
And by the way, you'll notice that this list is about showing that you care.
If you really want to win a girl's heart, that's all you've got to do is show her that you care. And if you can do it creatively and romantically, more power to you.
Sex is secondary. It really is.
2. Tell the girl you like her just the way she is and mean it. (You better mean it, otherwise why are you dating her?)
3. Give her a hug when she has a bad day.
4. Make her supper and bake a cake too.
5. Take her somewhere to do something she has never tried before . . . like rock climbing.
And by the way, you'll notice that this list is about showing that you care.
If you really want to win a girl's heart, that's all you've got to do is show her that you care. And if you can do it creatively and romantically, more power to you.
Sex is secondary. It really is.
Brrr....
I hate when it gets so cold out that your watch freezes and stops working after you've only been outside for a couple of hours.
At minus 47 degrees Celsius (that's minus 52.6 degrees Fahrenheit), it can get pretty cold even when you are indoors. Those are the days you just want to stay in bed and watch TV. Unfortunately, people expect you to still go to work. After all, you can't let a little cold weather stop you from doing your job.
Although, I think there should be a federal law that says you don't have to go outside when the temperature dips below minus 25 degrees Celsius, if you are working in a non-essential service industry. (That's minus 13 degrees Fahrenheit).
Now, of course, where I live, that would mean, during some years, I would get half the winter off. But I don't really have a problem with that.
At minus 47 degrees Celsius (that's minus 52.6 degrees Fahrenheit), it can get pretty cold even when you are indoors. Those are the days you just want to stay in bed and watch TV. Unfortunately, people expect you to still go to work. After all, you can't let a little cold weather stop you from doing your job.
Although, I think there should be a federal law that says you don't have to go outside when the temperature dips below minus 25 degrees Celsius, if you are working in a non-essential service industry. (That's minus 13 degrees Fahrenheit).
Now, of course, where I live, that would mean, during some years, I would get half the winter off. But I don't really have a problem with that.
Friday, February 17, 2006
Pointless
Guys who say they aren't looking to be in a relationship right now are difficult to understand.
What's the point of dating someone if there is no possibility of a blooming relationship?
You're not looking for something serious. Well, chances are the girl is looking for something that will grow to be more serious.
Why should a girl waste her time on such a guy?
When a guy says they are not looking for anything serious, that is a girl's cue to run far away and fast. Because that sort of guy is just looking to use her.
What's the point of dating someone if there is no possibility of a blooming relationship?
You're not looking for something serious. Well, chances are the girl is looking for something that will grow to be more serious.
Why should a girl waste her time on such a guy?
When a guy says they are not looking for anything serious, that is a girl's cue to run far away and fast. Because that sort of guy is just looking to use her.
Cynical Much?
"Whenever I date a guy, I think, 'Is this the man I want my children to spend their weekends with?'" -Rita Rudner
Thursday, February 16, 2006
Taking a chance
"Don't forget that the words, 'Would you like to join me for coffee?' can result in one of the greatest romances of all time." - Life's Little instruction Calendar Volume XI
Those words can also lead to one of the greatest disasters of all time too.
But you don't know until you try.
Those words can also lead to one of the greatest disasters of all time too.
But you don't know until you try.
Taking a chance
"Don't forget that the words, 'Would you like to join me for coffee?' can result in one of the greatest romances of all time." - Life's Little instruction Calendar Volume XI
Those words can also lead to one of the greatest disasters of all time too.
But you don't know until you try.
Those words can also lead to one of the greatest disasters of all time too.
But you don't know until you try.
You've Got Mail.
The worst invitations to get in the mail when you are single are the ones that say "You and one guest are invited to..."
It always sucks to have to RSVP and say: "It will just be me."
It always sucks to have to RSVP and say: "It will just be me."
Wednesday, February 15, 2006
Hockey
Olympic men's hockey can be divided into two leagues: the teams of NHL members and those teams that aren't.
The NHL teams dominate. And so, as of late, it usually always comes down to Canada and the U.S. (In fact, in women's hockey, it really is a two team tournament, because Canada and the U.S. will cakewalk to the final).
But I wonder if for hockey teams, like Italy (which has no NHL hockey members), if it is a thrill to play teams like Canada (which is made up entirely of NHL players and is coached by the Great One).
I mean who has the chance to play hockey against NHL players? Don't regular Joes pay money to do that while on dream vacations?
Sure, the Italians got walloped, but they got the experience to play against the best of the best. Now surely as a weaker team there is something that can be learned from that.
Of course, one can argue it is unfair to put in teams that are NHL only.
The NHL teams dominate. And so, as of late, it usually always comes down to Canada and the U.S. (In fact, in women's hockey, it really is a two team tournament, because Canada and the U.S. will cakewalk to the final).
But I wonder if for hockey teams, like Italy (which has no NHL hockey members), if it is a thrill to play teams like Canada (which is made up entirely of NHL players and is coached by the Great One).
I mean who has the chance to play hockey against NHL players? Don't regular Joes pay money to do that while on dream vacations?
Sure, the Italians got walloped, but they got the experience to play against the best of the best. Now surely as a weaker team there is something that can be learned from that.
Of course, one can argue it is unfair to put in teams that are NHL only.
Foolish Games
Some of us have an ex that has nine lives.
You really loved him or her. They hurt you badly, as in "wrenching pain that brought you to your knees sobbing" badly.
But they have the power to win you back and hurt you again. Then win you back once more so they can hurt you.
But a part of you will always love them. And for that, you are always willing to give them a chance, and then another chance.
Two years go by, and you think they are out of your life completely, until you meet them on the street one day. You thought you were over them, but the very sight of them gives you the butterflies . . . so you give them another chance.
"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." But fool me three times and then four, and then five times. . . well, it's because I live in faith that one day you'll grow up and stop fooling.
Many of us have an ex like that. The only way to escape him or her is if they get married and move to the other side of the world . . . Because no matter what they do, when they come calling, you can't say no to them.
There is always that part that loves them foolishly and unconditionally. And it is that love that drowns out whatever hate you should be feeling for them when you see them.
You really loved him or her. They hurt you badly, as in "wrenching pain that brought you to your knees sobbing" badly.
But they have the power to win you back and hurt you again. Then win you back once more so they can hurt you.
But a part of you will always love them. And for that, you are always willing to give them a chance, and then another chance.
Two years go by, and you think they are out of your life completely, until you meet them on the street one day. You thought you were over them, but the very sight of them gives you the butterflies . . . so you give them another chance.
"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." But fool me three times and then four, and then five times. . . well, it's because I live in faith that one day you'll grow up and stop fooling.
Many of us have an ex like that. The only way to escape him or her is if they get married and move to the other side of the world . . . Because no matter what they do, when they come calling, you can't say no to them.
There is always that part that loves them foolishly and unconditionally. And it is that love that drowns out whatever hate you should be feeling for them when you see them.
Tuesday, February 14, 2006
Olympics
The Olympics . . . one of the few times in a blue moon that I actually pay attention to sports.
I think the appeal to me is watching people who live their dreams.
I like watching the all or nothing attitude. If you try big, you can fail big . . . or you can win big.
I think the appeal to me is watching people who live their dreams.
I like watching the all or nothing attitude. If you try big, you can fail big . . . or you can win big.
What it should look like...
"Love, like a river, will cut a new path whenever it meets an obstacle." - Crystal Middlemas
Monday, February 13, 2006
Babies
You can tell a lot about yourself by how you react to other people's news.
For instance, my friend just told me she is pregnant with her second child. She is in the perfect position to start a family. She has a good job and so does her husband. Both are entitled to take shared maternity leave.
When she told me she was pregnant, I was like: "What are you kidding me? Are you crazy? Isn't one kid already enough?" Of course, I didn't say that out loud. Instead I said congratulations.
But I guess I'm a "one kid kind of gal" based on my reaction to her news. Because to me, one kid is probably enough of a handful. Why take on a second burden? Plus why put your body through the pain and discomfort for a second time? Isn't once enough?
For instance, my friend just told me she is pregnant with her second child. She is in the perfect position to start a family. She has a good job and so does her husband. Both are entitled to take shared maternity leave.
When she told me she was pregnant, I was like: "What are you kidding me? Are you crazy? Isn't one kid already enough?" Of course, I didn't say that out loud. Instead I said congratulations.
But I guess I'm a "one kid kind of gal" based on my reaction to her news. Because to me, one kid is probably enough of a handful. Why take on a second burden? Plus why put your body through the pain and discomfort for a second time? Isn't once enough?
Be mine...
Valentine's Day is like Christmas for some people. People in a relationship want the day to be perfect, but usually the day turns out to be anticlimatic.
And people who are alone end up feeling lonlier than normal.
It's just another commercial holiday aimed at selling greeting cards. It's a holiday that can make us feel miserable.
It's like Christmas.
Except unlike Christmas, it's okay to pretend that Valentine's Day doesn't exist. Push the day out of your mind. Make it a day like any other.
And people who are alone end up feeling lonlier than normal.
It's just another commercial holiday aimed at selling greeting cards. It's a holiday that can make us feel miserable.
It's like Christmas.
Except unlike Christmas, it's okay to pretend that Valentine's Day doesn't exist. Push the day out of your mind. Make it a day like any other.
Sunday, February 12, 2006
Songs
I always laugh at myself whenever I discover that I have completely misheard the lyrics to a certain song.
I thought the words to a favourite punk song were: "My new job is a piece of sh*t." When it turns out the lyrics were in fact: "I need a job just to sleep in sheets." I guess my music isn't as vulgar as I thought it was.
My favourite example of mishearing the lyrics is when a friend of mine thought the words to the song "Bad Moon Rising" were: "There's a bathroom on the right," instead of "There's a bad moon on the rise."
I thought the words to a favourite punk song were: "My new job is a piece of sh*t." When it turns out the lyrics were in fact: "I need a job just to sleep in sheets." I guess my music isn't as vulgar as I thought it was.
My favourite example of mishearing the lyrics is when a friend of mine thought the words to the song "Bad Moon Rising" were: "There's a bathroom on the right," instead of "There's a bad moon on the rise."
Online Dating
The popularity of online dating is picking up.
Apparently some people are going on five or six dates a week thanks to online dating. Some people even go on three or four dates a night.
These serial daters know what they want in a partner, so they give each of their dates a 20-minute in-person interview. And when that person turns out to not be the one, it is out the door for them.
Can you really screen people that quickly? Doesn't romance take time to grow?
If you go through dates so quickly, won't you be too cynical to know when the right person comes along. Yeah, sure that person might like dogs, and you cats. But still if given a chance . . . it can go somewhere. Can't it?
Since when did dating become like a job interview? Can love really be found that way?
Apparently some people are going on five or six dates a week thanks to online dating. Some people even go on three or four dates a night.
These serial daters know what they want in a partner, so they give each of their dates a 20-minute in-person interview. And when that person turns out to not be the one, it is out the door for them.
Can you really screen people that quickly? Doesn't romance take time to grow?
If you go through dates so quickly, won't you be too cynical to know when the right person comes along. Yeah, sure that person might like dogs, and you cats. But still if given a chance . . . it can go somewhere. Can't it?
Since when did dating become like a job interview? Can love really be found that way?
Saturday, February 11, 2006
Loneliness
"My love life was getting so bland. There are only so many ways I can make love with my hand. Sometimes it makes me want to laugh. Sometimes I want to take my toaster in the bath."- Blink 182
Sometimes you wonder if that box of condoms you keep in your underwear drawer is going to expire before you have sex again . . . even if the expiry date is two years away.
Sometimes you wonder if that box of condoms you keep in your underwear drawer is going to expire before you have sex again . . . even if the expiry date is two years away.
Fatal Attraction
Apparently, the easiest way to make a woman who is a six look like a 10 is to act jealous when your man checks her out.
Instead, it is best to act like you don't even notice her. Just act like everything is normal and cool. Continue to carry on the conversation and he'll think you're the 10.
Instead, it is best to act like you don't even notice her. Just act like everything is normal and cool. Continue to carry on the conversation and he'll think you're the 10.
Friday, February 10, 2006
Rejection
A rejection is a blow to our ego, especially when it is by someone we really liked.
Rejection can have us running to our mirrors to examine our warts and all. And if you get rejected enough, you begin to look for the mutant tail possibly growing from your behind.
Rejection can get you wanting to make a cocoon of your blanket, so you never have to leave your bed again.
Is it you? Are you really a horrible person? Or is it them? Do they just not know what they are missing? They just don't get you.
After a long dry spell in your dating life, should you give up and accept your life as a singleton?
"When it comes to life and love, why do we believe our worst reviews?" Carrie Bradshaw asked on Sex and the City.
But, then again, is their love out their for everyone?
We can't give up hope.
Rejection can have us running to our mirrors to examine our warts and all. And if you get rejected enough, you begin to look for the mutant tail possibly growing from your behind.
Rejection can get you wanting to make a cocoon of your blanket, so you never have to leave your bed again.
Is it you? Are you really a horrible person? Or is it them? Do they just not know what they are missing? They just don't get you.
After a long dry spell in your dating life, should you give up and accept your life as a singleton?
"When it comes to life and love, why do we believe our worst reviews?" Carrie Bradshaw asked on Sex and the City.
But, then again, is their love out their for everyone?
We can't give up hope.
Thursday, February 09, 2006
Loudness
I always find it amusing, after spending an early morning in quiet solitude, when I jump after getting into my car and being blown away by the blaring punk CD I left in my player.
Upon starting my car this morning, my moment of solitude was broken with the lines: "My new job is a piece of sh*t." Ah, you have to love punk music - so blunt and to the point.
Upon starting my car this morning, my moment of solitude was broken with the lines: "My new job is a piece of sh*t." Ah, you have to love punk music - so blunt and to the point.
Singleton Sports Pages
Seniors read the obituaries with a great deal of interest, as they are sadly getting to the age when everyone they know is passing away.
Twenty and thirty-somethings read the wedding announcements so they can count the people they know, or once knew, that are getting married.
When you're single in your late 20s and early 30s you can usually count, with one hand, the number of friends you have who are still single.
When you are in your late 30s and early 40s, you may likely be able to count, with both hands, the number of friends you have that are divorced.
Perhaps this is because people get married too quickly. And maybe, subconsciously, they do it for the sake of getting married. They overlook a person's problem qualities because they want them to be Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Twenty and thirty-somethings read the wedding announcements so they can count the people they know, or once knew, that are getting married.
When you're single in your late 20s and early 30s you can usually count, with one hand, the number of friends you have who are still single.
When you are in your late 30s and early 40s, you may likely be able to count, with both hands, the number of friends you have that are divorced.
Perhaps this is because people get married too quickly. And maybe, subconsciously, they do it for the sake of getting married. They overlook a person's problem qualities because they want them to be Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Singleton Sports Pages
Seniors read the obituaries with a great deal of interest, as they are sadly getting to the age when everyone they know is passing away.
Twenty and thirty-somethings read the wedding announcements so they can count the people they know, or once knew, that are getting married.
When you're single in your late 20s and early 30s you can usually count, with one hand, the number of friends you have who are still single.
When you are in your late 30s and early 40s, you may likely be able to count, with both hands, the number of friends you have that are divorced.
Perhaps this is because people get married too quickly. And maybe, subconsciously, they do it for the sake of getting married. They overlook a person's problem qualities because they want them to be Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Twenty and thirty-somethings read the wedding announcements so they can count the people they know, or once knew, that are getting married.
When you're single in your late 20s and early 30s you can usually count, with one hand, the number of friends you have who are still single.
When you are in your late 30s and early 40s, you may likely be able to count, with both hands, the number of friends you have that are divorced.
Perhaps this is because people get married too quickly. And maybe, subconsciously, they do it for the sake of getting married. They overlook a person's problem qualities because they want them to be Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Wednesday, February 08, 2006
True Dat!
"We were having one of those great first dates you can only have when it's not an actual date." -Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City
We've all been there.
We've all been there.
Weighty Matters.
"Never give anyone you're dating a diet book." -Life's Little Instruction Calendar Volume XI
Thank you Captain Obvious!!
But really what do you do if the person you are dating starts putting on a little weight, or a lot of weight. If you really like them, it shouldn't matter. Should it?
Thank you Captain Obvious!!
But really what do you do if the person you are dating starts putting on a little weight, or a lot of weight. If you really like them, it shouldn't matter. Should it?
Tuesday, February 07, 2006
Chocolate
I have a rule that I can only eat junkfood if it is given to me or if I buy it from charity.
Lately, there has been someone at work selling chocolate bars to raise money for amputees. It is sold by the honour system. They leave the chocolate bars in the lounge and whoever buys a chocolate bar leaves the money and takes a chocolate bar.
Anyhow I was buying a lot of chocolate bars - chocolate is my weakness - and was releaved when the bag of chocolate bars was emptied. But then, shortly after, another bag was brought in, and now a third ... and I keep buying chocolates.
I might as well give the charity my bank account number.
Lately, there has been someone at work selling chocolate bars to raise money for amputees. It is sold by the honour system. They leave the chocolate bars in the lounge and whoever buys a chocolate bar leaves the money and takes a chocolate bar.
Anyhow I was buying a lot of chocolate bars - chocolate is my weakness - and was releaved when the bag of chocolate bars was emptied. But then, shortly after, another bag was brought in, and now a third ... and I keep buying chocolates.
I might as well give the charity my bank account number.
On true love . . .
"Some people are settling down. Some people are settling. And some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies." -Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City
As for the people who won't settle for anything less than butterflies, are they expecting too much?
Maybe they'll never find their butterflies.
As for the people who won't settle for anything less than butterflies, are they expecting too much?
Maybe they'll never find their butterflies.
Monday, February 06, 2006
The Sequel: A single fear.
In Buffy the Vampire Slayer (Season 3, Episode 20), Anya, the demon-turned-human, who is still developing her first human feelings, asks Xander to the prom.
Because of Anya's demon past, she has a lot of contempt for men. She was a demon who punished men who were unfaithful to their girlfriends and wives.
Anya: "I have witnessed a millennium of treachery and oppression from the males of the species and I have nothing but contempt for the whole libidinous lot of them."
Xander: "Then why are you talking to me?"
Anya: "I don't have a date to the prom . . . All I know is I really want to go to this dance and I want someone to go with me."
Despite the fact that she hates all men, she still couldn't go to the dance alone.
While that is an extreme example, many people feel they need a date . . . enough people to keep escort services busy anyway.
Why do we fear being alone? Why do so many people lack the ability to be alone?
Because of Anya's demon past, she has a lot of contempt for men. She was a demon who punished men who were unfaithful to their girlfriends and wives.
Anya: "I have witnessed a millennium of treachery and oppression from the males of the species and I have nothing but contempt for the whole libidinous lot of them."
Xander: "Then why are you talking to me?"
Anya: "I don't have a date to the prom . . . All I know is I really want to go to this dance and I want someone to go with me."
Despite the fact that she hates all men, she still couldn't go to the dance alone.
While that is an extreme example, many people feel they need a date . . . enough people to keep escort services busy anyway.
Why do we fear being alone? Why do so many people lack the ability to be alone?
Napoleon Dynamite Days
There are days when I feel like Napoleon Dynamite, where I probably look like an eccentric weirdo.
Like today, when I was out in the cold, walking up the hill near my work. I had my big Sorel boots on and a plastic bag in hand. I had my scarf around my face and my toque on, looking like a kindergarten kid wrapped up by her mother, on her way to school. But hey, it was really cold out!
I'm sure I had a ho-hum look on my face and was probably walking slow and without purpose. I probably could have been one of those characters right out of Napoleon Dynamite (had it been shot in the winter and in a place that gets snow).
But what can I say, it was one of those days.
Like today, when I was out in the cold, walking up the hill near my work. I had my big Sorel boots on and a plastic bag in hand. I had my scarf around my face and my toque on, looking like a kindergarten kid wrapped up by her mother, on her way to school. But hey, it was really cold out!
I'm sure I had a ho-hum look on my face and was probably walking slow and without purpose. I probably could have been one of those characters right out of Napoleon Dynamite (had it been shot in the winter and in a place that gets snow).
But what can I say, it was one of those days.
Sunday, February 05, 2006
A point on men.
There is a telling scene about men in Buffy the Vampire Slayer (Season Three, Episode 20) when Anya, a demon turned human, who is just starting to gain human feelings, asks Xander to the prom.
Xander is resistant, so Anya says: "Look I know you find me attractive. I see you looking at my breasts."
Xander says: "Nothing personal, but when a guy does that, it just means his eyes are open." (It doesn't mean that he likes her).
But in the end, Xander goes with Anya because he doesn't have any other potential dates for the prom.
Sometimes I think if a man really wants to get laid, or really wants a date to the prom, or whatever, he will lower the bar and take the last woman standing if he must.
That's why there are prostitutes with three teeth who are able to maintain a steady business.
Xander is resistant, so Anya says: "Look I know you find me attractive. I see you looking at my breasts."
Xander says: "Nothing personal, but when a guy does that, it just means his eyes are open." (It doesn't mean that he likes her).
But in the end, Xander goes with Anya because he doesn't have any other potential dates for the prom.
Sometimes I think if a man really wants to get laid, or really wants a date to the prom, or whatever, he will lower the bar and take the last woman standing if he must.
That's why there are prostitutes with three teeth who are able to maintain a steady business.
Morons
One of my favourite comic strips is Get Fuzzy, by Darby Conley. Sometimes I wish I could act like the cat Bucky, like when he calls Rob a moron:
Bucky: "Gee Robert . . . I never knew you spoke fluent moron. So were you a moron major in college, or did you listen to moron tapes in your car. Or did your parents both speak moronic as a first language."
There are some people I wish I could say that too.
Bucky: "Gee Robert . . . I never knew you spoke fluent moron. So were you a moron major in college, or did you listen to moron tapes in your car. Or did your parents both speak moronic as a first language."
There are some people I wish I could say that too.
Saturday, February 04, 2006
Online Dating in a Nutshell
Take any one online dating site and look up one city. There can be 100s of locals listed.
But all those guys can be lumped into a few small categories. Let's look at some of those groups.
1) Recently Divorced with Kids: He's all like: "I've been out of the dating scene for a while. I love my kids. Here's a picture of me with a beer. I'm hip. I'm cool. I'm laid back." He's usually in his early to late 40s and sends "smiles" to all the 20-somethings on the site.
2) Shyness Issues Boy: He would never approach a girl in "real life," but online dating lets him sit back and let the dates come to him.
3) Buff, Bleach-Blond Hair Boy - These boys are processed cheese. The cookie-cutter pretty boys. You've seen one. You've seen them all. They lack in real personality. And since they have an image to maintain, do not apply unless you are a tall, attractive cookie-cutter blond.
4) "I'm just here to see what's out there, but not looking for a relationship" Player - Enough said. Stay away from him, the "he used to date my cousin and he cheated on her" types.
5) "No real concept of what I look like" Guy - Some people say they are muscular, fit or average in their profiles . . . and in reality . . . not so much. I like these people who are honest and tuned into reality.
These are just some of the online dating categories. Aren't stereotypes fun? And yes, the same categories can apply to girls.
Oh sure, there are guys online that fall into the nice guy, keeper categories. But who wants to make fun of them?
But all those guys can be lumped into a few small categories. Let's look at some of those groups.
1) Recently Divorced with Kids: He's all like: "I've been out of the dating scene for a while. I love my kids. Here's a picture of me with a beer. I'm hip. I'm cool. I'm laid back." He's usually in his early to late 40s and sends "smiles" to all the 20-somethings on the site.
2) Shyness Issues Boy: He would never approach a girl in "real life," but online dating lets him sit back and let the dates come to him.
3) Buff, Bleach-Blond Hair Boy - These boys are processed cheese. The cookie-cutter pretty boys. You've seen one. You've seen them all. They lack in real personality. And since they have an image to maintain, do not apply unless you are a tall, attractive cookie-cutter blond.
4) "I'm just here to see what's out there, but not looking for a relationship" Player - Enough said. Stay away from him, the "he used to date my cousin and he cheated on her" types.
5) "No real concept of what I look like" Guy - Some people say they are muscular, fit or average in their profiles . . . and in reality . . . not so much. I like these people who are honest and tuned into reality.
These are just some of the online dating categories. Aren't stereotypes fun? And yes, the same categories can apply to girls.
Oh sure, there are guys online that fall into the nice guy, keeper categories. But who wants to make fun of them?
More than I can chew...
I hate when I agree to do something, thinking it won't take a lot of time.
But then when I finally sit down to do it, and I realize it is going to take hours, I try to stay calm.
Because, even though I'm thinking, "what was I thinking," if I don't do it, I'm going to be in huge trouble. People are relying on me.
I hate those situations.
But then when I finally sit down to do it, and I realize it is going to take hours, I try to stay calm.
Because, even though I'm thinking, "what was I thinking," if I don't do it, I'm going to be in huge trouble. People are relying on me.
I hate those situations.
Friday, February 03, 2006
Advice
"Whether you've been complimented or criticized, consider the source." - Life's Little Instruction Calendar Volume XI.
A resolution
In the movie "Bridget Jones's Diary," Bridget swears off forming any romantic attachments to:
"alcoholics, workoholics, sexaholics, commitment-phobics, peeping toms, megalomaniacs, emotional fuckwits" and "perverts."
I think most women regularly have problems with men who are commitment-phobics, megalomaniacs and emotional fuckwits.
An example of an emotional fuckwit.
When a guy tells his girlfriend that it is not his job to support her emotionally the first time she confides in him about a problem regarding her job.
He then doesn't get why she breaks up with him right then and there.
Fuckwit: A person who is not only lacking in clue, but is apparently unable or unwilling to acquire clue even when handed it on a plate in generous portions.
"alcoholics, workoholics, sexaholics, commitment-phobics, peeping toms, megalomaniacs, emotional fuckwits" and "perverts."
I think most women regularly have problems with men who are commitment-phobics, megalomaniacs and emotional fuckwits.
An example of an emotional fuckwit.
When a guy tells his girlfriend that it is not his job to support her emotionally the first time she confides in him about a problem regarding her job.
He then doesn't get why she breaks up with him right then and there.
Fuckwit: A person who is not only lacking in clue, but is apparently unable or unwilling to acquire clue even when handed it on a plate in generous portions.
Thursday, February 02, 2006
Just Friends
Why is it when people are breaking up they agree to remain friends?
You can try to be friends, but most people learn very quickly that when they break up with someone this is hard to do, especially when the break up was difficult.
Being friends impedes the healing process. It's best to cut each other out of your lives completely for at least a year or two if you truly want to be friends again later.
You can try to be friends, but most people learn very quickly that when they break up with someone this is hard to do, especially when the break up was difficult.
Being friends impedes the healing process. It's best to cut each other out of your lives completely for at least a year or two if you truly want to be friends again later.
Just Friends
Why is it when people are breaking up they agree to remain friends?
You can try to be friends, but most people learn very quickly that when they break up with someone this is hard to do, especially when the break up was difficult.
Being friends impedes the healing process. It's best to cut each other out of your lives completely for at least a year or two if you truly want to be friends again later.
You can try to be friends, but most people learn very quickly that when they break up with someone this is hard to do, especially when the break up was difficult.
Being friends impedes the healing process. It's best to cut each other out of your lives completely for at least a year or two if you truly want to be friends again later.
Suspense
When will I learn that watching a few episodes of a dramatic TV series on DVD before I go to bed is a bad idea.
Each episode always ends on a cliffhanger, so I have to watch the next one and then the next one until it is way past my usual bedtime.
It's not even worth it really, since the resolutions of these cliffhangers are usually anticlimactic.
Each episode always ends on a cliffhanger, so I have to watch the next one and then the next one until it is way past my usual bedtime.
It's not even worth it really, since the resolutions of these cliffhangers are usually anticlimactic.
Wednesday, February 01, 2006
If only...
I think everyone's life would be 100 per cent better if, at the end of every week, we were given a three-day weekend. The only draw back would be if you were paid by the hour, then there would only be 32 working hours instead of 40.
Time is valuable.
Time is valuable.
Famous Last Words
You know a relationship is over when your significant other says: "We need to talk."
Those are words nobody wants to hear. And that doesn't just apply to dating.
Those are words nobody wants to hear. And that doesn't just apply to dating.
Tuesday, January 31, 2006
Help
What I've learned throughout my life is that many people do not handle emergency situations well.
If someone collapses in front of them, most will not call an ambulance. I saw a young woman collapse in a crowded party. She had overdosed on drugs. And many were laughing at her or just starring at her. No one was doing anything. I hopped over the counter and got security involved. An ambulance was called. The girl could have died if I hadn't done anything.
Sadly, that's not the first time I've seen people not react properly. I've seen an old man collapse in a park. No one did anything to help him.
A friend of mine told me that she saw a man beating up a woman on the street, but my friend didn't call the police. Another person I know didn't call the police when she saw an eight-year-old kid walking down the street with a hand gun in plain view.
People don't like to get involved, or they don't want to admit to what it is they are seeing.
So if you are ever in trouble, don't necessarily rely on other people to help you out.
If someone collapses in front of them, most will not call an ambulance. I saw a young woman collapse in a crowded party. She had overdosed on drugs. And many were laughing at her or just starring at her. No one was doing anything. I hopped over the counter and got security involved. An ambulance was called. The girl could have died if I hadn't done anything.
Sadly, that's not the first time I've seen people not react properly. I've seen an old man collapse in a park. No one did anything to help him.
A friend of mine told me that she saw a man beating up a woman on the street, but my friend didn't call the police. Another person I know didn't call the police when she saw an eight-year-old kid walking down the street with a hand gun in plain view.
People don't like to get involved, or they don't want to admit to what it is they are seeing.
So if you are ever in trouble, don't necessarily rely on other people to help you out.
Friends with Benefits
Remember that if you're in a casual relationship, kind of like the "friends with benefits" situation, it's probably not as great as it seems. The other person likely has feelings for you and is living in hope that your relationship will get more serious.
Monday, January 30, 2006
Happily Ever After
"I have now reigned about 50 years in victory or peace, beloved by my subjects, dreaded by my enemies, and respected by my allies. Riches and honors, power and pleasure, have waited on my call, nor does any earthly blessing appear to have been wanting to my felicity. In this situation, I have diligently numbered the days of pure and genuine happiness which have fallen to my lot. They amount to fourteen." -Abd Er-Rahman III of Spain. 960 C.E.
What a depressing thought, but probably true. Most of us will never be happy.
What a depressing thought, but probably true. Most of us will never be happy.
First Date Insecurities
"Do you like my stupid hair? Would you guess that I didn't know what to wear? I'm just scared of what you think. You make me nervous so I really can't eat." - Blink 182
Sunday, January 29, 2006
Bad News
There is nothing more disappointing when someone cancels on you after you've been looking forward to hanging out with them all week.
When big plans are cancelled, it can ruin your day.
C'est la vie.
When big plans are cancelled, it can ruin your day.
C'est la vie.
No more excuses.
When a guy doesn't call you when he is supposed to, cut him out of your life immediately.
Respect yourself. Don't make excuses for him.
If he truly liked you, he would find time to call you, no matter how busy he was. You would be the bright spot in his crappy day.
Respect yourself. Don't make excuses for him.
If he truly liked you, he would find time to call you, no matter how busy he was. You would be the bright spot in his crappy day.
No more excuses.
When a guy doesn't call you when he is supposed to, cut him out of your life immediately.
Respect yourself. Don't make excuses for him.
If he truly liked you, he would find time to call you, no matter how busy he was. You would be the bright spot in his crappy day.
Respect yourself. Don't make excuses for him.
If he truly liked you, he would find time to call you, no matter how busy he was. You would be the bright spot in his crappy day.
Saturday, January 28, 2006
Alone again.
There is nothing worse than spending a Saturday night getting burned by some loser you somehow found yourself dating.
It is tough to, once again, have to tell yourself that you are great. It is his loss.
Then you think back to all the heartache you've experienced over the years and you ask yourself: "How much more of this can I really take?"
It is tough to, once again, have to tell yourself that you are great. It is his loss.
Then you think back to all the heartache you've experienced over the years and you ask yourself: "How much more of this can I really take?"
Half full
Why is it that realism and pessimism are considered one in the same?
Life isn't great all the time, and thinking that it should be, or will be, only sets you up for disappointment.
Why are we expected to be naively optimistic all the time?
Life isn't great all the time, and thinking that it should be, or will be, only sets you up for disappointment.
Why are we expected to be naively optimistic all the time?
Friday, January 27, 2006
A word of caution
"Bad habits are sticky. Be careful what you touch." - Life's Little Instruction Calendar, Volume XI
A friendly affair
Can men and women just be friends?
I suppose they can, but that doesn't mean the thought of sex with their friend has never crossed their mind.
Be honest! Have you ever thought about sex with a friend of the opposite sex and then went "nah!"
Just because you haven't, doesn't mean they haven't.
Your friend will never admit that they have either.
I suppose they can, but that doesn't mean the thought of sex with their friend has never crossed their mind.
Be honest! Have you ever thought about sex with a friend of the opposite sex and then went "nah!"
Just because you haven't, doesn't mean they haven't.
Your friend will never admit that they have either.
Thursday, January 26, 2006
Sitting, Waiting
If you are single, female and want a challenge, try to live a full and eventful life without thinking about dating.
Liz Tuccillo, former "Sex and the City" writer and co-author of "He's Just Not That Into You," suggests that we do this.
What Tucillo is implying, but not saying is, if we focus on perfecting ourselves and push dating out of our mind, we will one day be unexpectedly blindsided by our true loves.
"We don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out," writes Tucillo.
Liz Tuccillo, former "Sex and the City" writer and co-author of "He's Just Not That Into You," suggests that we do this.
What Tucillo is implying, but not saying is, if we focus on perfecting ourselves and push dating out of our mind, we will one day be unexpectedly blindsided by our true loves.
"We don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out," writes Tucillo.
Parking Violations
I work in an office building that is isolated in a residential area.
There is not enough parking around our building, so today I had to park super far away.
Later, I found this typed note on my car:
"Could you please find somewhere else to park as we have no place to park when we get home from work. Our family have 4 different cars, so we don't think you would appreciate this in front of where you live. Thank you!"
My first thought was to go knock on this family's door and tell them "Tough luck! It's public property!" And from there I would tell them to go to hell.
Then, I was irritated by the poor grammar and punctuation found in the note. Can you spot the mistakes?
And by the way, there was parking available in front of and behind my car.
Should I be sympathetic to their situation? Maybe. I'm not the first one at my work to get the note.
But still suck it up. I would never put a note on someone's car, even if they took my preferred parking spot.
There is not enough parking around our building, so today I had to park super far away.
Later, I found this typed note on my car:
"Could you please find somewhere else to park as we have no place to park when we get home from work. Our family have 4 different cars, so we don't think you would appreciate this in front of where you live. Thank you!"
My first thought was to go knock on this family's door and tell them "Tough luck! It's public property!" And from there I would tell them to go to hell.
Then, I was irritated by the poor grammar and punctuation found in the note. Can you spot the mistakes?
And by the way, there was parking available in front of and behind my car.
Should I be sympathetic to their situation? Maybe. I'm not the first one at my work to get the note.
But still suck it up. I would never put a note on someone's car, even if they took my preferred parking spot.
Wednesday, January 25, 2006
Idols
When it comes to shows like American Idol, its popularity is not necessarily based on singing. We'll watch the show, but when it's all over we won't buy the CD. After all how, many winners have gone on to have successful music careers? Not many.
We watch American Idol because the kids are chasing their dreams. Many of them don't stand a chance in hell of ever making it, but they are naive and will still chase those dreams. Others will go on to realize those dreams.
We all have dreams and that's why a lot of us watch the show. Maybe we don't want to be a singer, but we want to become something. On a subconscious level, we identify with those kids on American Idol.
We are all trying to develop some sort of talent. When we expose what our dreams are and pursue them, we become vulnerable. We can be criticized and shot down like the kids on the show.
But it is the kids who take that criticism and say: "Yeah, maybe I could use some work" and then go and do what it takes to improve. Those are the kids who succeed - the ones who never give up, the ones who use criticism and rejection as a chance to get better.
Of course, sometimes if you can't sing, you just can't sing, and you have to give up on singing. But that doesn't mean you can't work with music in some other capacity. Life should be about making the dream work, somehow.
We watch American Idol because the kids are chasing their dreams. Many of them don't stand a chance in hell of ever making it, but they are naive and will still chase those dreams. Others will go on to realize those dreams.
We all have dreams and that's why a lot of us watch the show. Maybe we don't want to be a singer, but we want to become something. On a subconscious level, we identify with those kids on American Idol.
We are all trying to develop some sort of talent. When we expose what our dreams are and pursue them, we become vulnerable. We can be criticized and shot down like the kids on the show.
But it is the kids who take that criticism and say: "Yeah, maybe I could use some work" and then go and do what it takes to improve. Those are the kids who succeed - the ones who never give up, the ones who use criticism and rejection as a chance to get better.
Of course, sometimes if you can't sing, you just can't sing, and you have to give up on singing. But that doesn't mean you can't work with music in some other capacity. Life should be about making the dream work, somehow.
Drinking
Apparently, a lot of people like to consume alcohol during the early stages of a relationship.
Alcohol takes the edge off and helps get the ball rolling, so to speak.
I guess dating is so uncomfortable in the beginning we can't do it sober.
What would happen if we didn't date and drink? Maybe a lot of relationships wouldn't happen.
Perhaps it is sad, but true?
Alcohol takes the edge off and helps get the ball rolling, so to speak.
I guess dating is so uncomfortable in the beginning we can't do it sober.
What would happen if we didn't date and drink? Maybe a lot of relationships wouldn't happen.
Perhaps it is sad, but true?
Tuesday, January 24, 2006
Hanging Out
What girls really dislike are the beginning of relationships where guys just hang out with them on unofficial dates. The guy could questionably be interested in her. And their hanging out time could be seen as a date.
The girls want to seem casual so they don't ask where the relationship is going and the guys don't want to take responsibility for any feelings being developed.
And, if the relationship does not get off the ground, the girl wonders if the guy just decided that he didn't like her? Or was he too chicken to ask her out? Did he eventually give up? Did she not help him along enough? Should she have asked him out herself?
Hanging out time is confusing and frustrating for girls.
The girls want to seem casual so they don't ask where the relationship is going and the guys don't want to take responsibility for any feelings being developed.
And, if the relationship does not get off the ground, the girl wonders if the guy just decided that he didn't like her? Or was he too chicken to ask her out? Did he eventually give up? Did she not help him along enough? Should she have asked him out herself?
Hanging out time is confusing and frustrating for girls.
Point of View
Why is it that someone can comment that they are having a bad hair day, while you think their hair looks the same way it looks everyday, which is not necessarily bad.
What merits a bad hair day for them on that particular day if you think their hair looks the same as it always does on any day?
Individually, we do not view the world in the same way that others view the world.
What merits a bad hair day for them on that particular day if you think their hair looks the same as it always does on any day?
Individually, we do not view the world in the same way that others view the world.
Monday, January 23, 2006
Great Expectations
I think, if many of us girls lived our dating lives by books like "The Rules" or "He's Just Not That Into You," most of us would never have had boyfriends ever.
Okay, maybe the guys we date aren't that into us. But maybe they are just clueless about proper dating etiquette. Men aren't reading these rulebooks.
Okay, maybe the guys we date aren't that into us. But maybe they are just clueless about proper dating etiquette. Men aren't reading these rulebooks.
PAIN RELIEF
Why do injuries feel better after we put a bandage on?
I suffered a karate injury where my toenail was cracked off like a walnut shell. Painful? Yes.
But for some reason it felt better when it was wrapped in gauze and taped up.
Bandages must be psychological pain relievers.
I suffered a karate injury where my toenail was cracked off like a walnut shell. Painful? Yes.
But for some reason it felt better when it was wrapped in gauze and taped up.
Bandages must be psychological pain relievers.
Sunday, January 22, 2006
Egos and Icons
The hardest thing to do is deliberately hold yourself back.
This means evaluating yourself and deciding you are not ready to proceed forward.
I had a karate test this weekend. But I opted not to evaluate because I knew there were things that I still needed to work on.
This was a difficult decision to make , especially when there is pressure from up and coming students that are racing to catch up and pass you in rank and ability. That doesn't mean I can't recatch up and pass them again later.
Rank is associated with ego. The faster you can advance the more you can hold over your daily opponents. (The people you train with).
But rank isn't what karate is about. Karate is a life-long journey. It is a sport that allows you to work at your own pace. If you want to learn, ego should be put aside.
Besides if you know you are not ready, why embarrass yourself by trying and likely not succeeding. Instead it is better to kick yourself for not working hard enough in order to have been ready and then vow that you will be ready next time.
This means evaluating yourself and deciding you are not ready to proceed forward.
I had a karate test this weekend. But I opted not to evaluate because I knew there were things that I still needed to work on.
This was a difficult decision to make , especially when there is pressure from up and coming students that are racing to catch up and pass you in rank and ability. That doesn't mean I can't recatch up and pass them again later.
Rank is associated with ego. The faster you can advance the more you can hold over your daily opponents. (The people you train with).
But rank isn't what karate is about. Karate is a life-long journey. It is a sport that allows you to work at your own pace. If you want to learn, ego should be put aside.
Besides if you know you are not ready, why embarrass yourself by trying and likely not succeeding. Instead it is better to kick yourself for not working hard enough in order to have been ready and then vow that you will be ready next time.
Saturday, January 21, 2006
Race Notes
Why do we always feel that we have to race and compete against everyone else?
Is life really a race against other people?
If someone younger than you has a better job than you, and makes more money than you, you suddenly become unhappy with your own situation.
You're older. How come you're not as successful as them?
But it's hard to compare yourself to other people, especially since we don't all start from the same place. Some of us take longer to find the right path.
It's more about the journey and not about the destination.
If you have to work harder, or it takes you a long time to get somewhere, when you find your success, you'll probably appreciate it more.
The important thing is not to give up.
Is life really a race against other people?
If someone younger than you has a better job than you, and makes more money than you, you suddenly become unhappy with your own situation.
You're older. How come you're not as successful as them?
But it's hard to compare yourself to other people, especially since we don't all start from the same place. Some of us take longer to find the right path.
It's more about the journey and not about the destination.
If you have to work harder, or it takes you a long time to get somewhere, when you find your success, you'll probably appreciate it more.
The important thing is not to give up.
Friday, January 20, 2006
Patience, child!
One of my karate instructors always says: "Patience is a virtue and a strategy."
But in everyday life patience is difficult.
I think a lot of us are hard on ourselves. When we don't accomplish what we want immeadiatly, in a day or a week, we get frustrated.
I constantly have to remind myself that I couldn't climb Everst in a day. It's impossible. The same holds true in everyday life. Things take time and you can't complete them until you are ready.
But in everyday life patience is difficult.
I think a lot of us are hard on ourselves. When we don't accomplish what we want immeadiatly, in a day or a week, we get frustrated.
I constantly have to remind myself that I couldn't climb Everst in a day. It's impossible. The same holds true in everyday life. Things take time and you can't complete them until you are ready.
Thursday, January 19, 2006
Romance
"When men attempt bold gestures, generally it's considered romantic. When women do it, it's often considered desperate or psycho." - Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City
Failure
Over the last several years, I've learned a lot about failure.
(Failure is such a dirty word).
When you fail at something you must decide: "How badly do I want this?" I was once pursuing something I thought I wanted, but failing in that pursuit woke me up to what I really wanted. After that failure, I dramatically changed my life's direction. That said, that failure is still too embarrassing and painful to talk about it, even though it got me on the right path. Very few people know about it.
Failure is also a wake up call. I've been studying the martial arts for a few years. When I went to grade for my brown belt, I thought I was so great. And then I failed the test. I was the only one in my group who failed. Talk about humiliating. I was angry and frustrated. My ego was shattered. I got over it and worked my butt off. I redid the grading and I passed. My karate is better than it's ever been, but I wouldn't have realized I needed improvement unless I failed.
Failure sucks big time when you're in the process of failing. But when you get some distance from that failure, you realize it happened for a reason.
(Failure is such a dirty word).
When you fail at something you must decide: "How badly do I want this?" I was once pursuing something I thought I wanted, but failing in that pursuit woke me up to what I really wanted. After that failure, I dramatically changed my life's direction. That said, that failure is still too embarrassing and painful to talk about it, even though it got me on the right path. Very few people know about it.
Failure is also a wake up call. I've been studying the martial arts for a few years. When I went to grade for my brown belt, I thought I was so great. And then I failed the test. I was the only one in my group who failed. Talk about humiliating. I was angry and frustrated. My ego was shattered. I got over it and worked my butt off. I redid the grading and I passed. My karate is better than it's ever been, but I wouldn't have realized I needed improvement unless I failed.
Failure sucks big time when you're in the process of failing. But when you get some distance from that failure, you realize it happened for a reason.
Wednesday, January 18, 2006
Just do it
It has been said that asking someone out is like tearing off a bandage.
The quicker you do it, the better.
Just blurt it all out.
But unlike a bandage, which stings immediately, the pain of asking someone out will come much later.
The quicker you do it, the better.
Just blurt it all out.
But unlike a bandage, which stings immediately, the pain of asking someone out will come much later.
Just do it
It has been said that asking someone out is like tearing off a bandage.
The quicker you do it, the better.
Just blurt it all out.
But unlike a bandage, which stings immediately, the pain of asking someone out will come much later.
The quicker you do it, the better.
Just blurt it all out.
But unlike a bandage, which stings immediately, the pain of asking someone out will come much later.
Tuesday, January 17, 2006
Bad Advice
I just heard an unusual conversation between two women in their late 20s.
One of them had never kissed a guy before and she wanted her first time to be with someone special. She also didn't want to be subconscious about her first kiss.
The other woman told her to ask one of her guy friends if he would practice with her, just so she could get over her fears.
The non-experienced woman thought this was a good idea and started thinking of guy friends to ask.
I wanted to yell: "No. That's a bad idea. What the hell are you thinking? You'll ruin your friendship by just asking."
One of them had never kissed a guy before and she wanted her first time to be with someone special. She also didn't want to be subconscious about her first kiss.
The other woman told her to ask one of her guy friends if he would practice with her, just so she could get over her fears.
The non-experienced woman thought this was a good idea and started thinking of guy friends to ask.
I wanted to yell: "No. That's a bad idea. What the hell are you thinking? You'll ruin your friendship by just asking."
Bad Advice
I just heard an unusual conversation between two women in their late 20s.
One of them had never kissed a guy before and she wanted her first time to be with someone special. She also didn't want to be subconscious about her first kiss.
The other woman told her to ask one of her guy friends if he would practice with her, just so she could get over her fears.
The non-experienced woman thought this was a good idea and started thinking of guy friends to ask.
I wanted to yell: "No. That's a bad idea. What the hell are you thinking? You'll ruin your friendship by just asking."
One of them had never kissed a guy before and she wanted her first time to be with someone special. She also didn't want to be subconscious about her first kiss.
The other woman told her to ask one of her guy friends if he would practice with her, just so she could get over her fears.
The non-experienced woman thought this was a good idea and started thinking of guy friends to ask.
I wanted to yell: "No. That's a bad idea. What the hell are you thinking? You'll ruin your friendship by just asking."
Tips
I hate tip cups in fast food restaurants. It's not like fast food workers deserve tips.
Usually fast food workers don't go above and beyond in doing their job.
Why should we give them money for being unfriendly?
Usually fast food workers don't go above and beyond in doing their job.
Why should we give them money for being unfriendly?
Monday, January 16, 2006
Bad Service
I hate when service people do a bad job and then act like it's your fault when you complain.
Yesterday, I took my car into the garage. I could tell through the "watch-as-we-work" window that the mechanic wasn't doing what I asked. Not only that, he was doing his work poorly.
It became a question of do I say something now or do I wait until he's done to inspect his work.
I waited until he was done and looked at his work, then went back to his manager to complain.
The manager looked at my car and agreed that a poor job had been done.
I could see, through the "watch-as-we-work" window, the manager tell the mechanic. The mechanic swore about it. Then, he squealed my car back into the garage and re-did the work.
The manager was apologetic, but the mechanic wasn't.
I'm still waiting to see if the mechanic sabotaged my car.
Yesterday, I took my car into the garage. I could tell through the "watch-as-we-work" window that the mechanic wasn't doing what I asked. Not only that, he was doing his work poorly.
It became a question of do I say something now or do I wait until he's done to inspect his work.
I waited until he was done and looked at his work, then went back to his manager to complain.
The manager looked at my car and agreed that a poor job had been done.
I could see, through the "watch-as-we-work" window, the manager tell the mechanic. The mechanic swore about it. Then, he squealed my car back into the garage and re-did the work.
The manager was apologetic, but the mechanic wasn't.
I'm still waiting to see if the mechanic sabotaged my car.
Thinking
There is a certain point when you realize that you don't have anything in common with the guy you like.
In fact, you realize he's not that smart and kind of a jerk.
And what's sad is that, you know if he asked, you would go out with him anyway.
In fact, you realize he's not that smart and kind of a jerk.
And what's sad is that, you know if he asked, you would go out with him anyway.
Thinking
There is a certain point when you realize that you don't have anything in common with the guy you like.
In fact, you realize he's not that smart and kind of a jerk.
And what's sad is that, you know if he asked, you would go out with him anyway.
In fact, you realize he's not that smart and kind of a jerk.
And what's sad is that, you know if he asked, you would go out with him anyway.
Sunday, January 15, 2006
Hunting Season
California radio personality Sherry Argov compares dating to hunting. A man gets satisfaction out of tracking and killing a moose. However, if the moose suddenly appeared dead at his doorstep, the man would not get the same sense of satisfaction. In fact, he would probably be disgusted.
The same is true with women, said Argov. Men like to woo women, but if a woman gives him what he wants too soon or is pursuing him, it's like she is that dead moose on the doorstep.
The same is true with women, said Argov. Men like to woo women, but if a woman gives him what he wants too soon or is pursuing him, it's like she is that dead moose on the doorstep.
Giving up!
There is a time when you have to accept defeat and give up hope on your crush ever asking you out.
He's either too shy or he just doesn't like you, even if he's accepted invitations to go to movies with you.
It's depressing, but you have to accept the fact that it is not going to happen.
He's either too shy or he just doesn't like you, even if he's accepted invitations to go to movies with you.
It's depressing, but you have to accept the fact that it is not going to happen.
Giving up!
There is a time when you have to accept defeat and give up hope on your crush ever asking you out.
He's either too shy or he just doesn't like you, even if he's accepted invitations to go to movies with you.
It's depressing, but you have to accept the fact that it is not going to happen.
He's either too shy or he just doesn't like you, even if he's accepted invitations to go to movies with you.
It's depressing, but you have to accept the fact that it is not going to happen.
Saturday, January 14, 2006
Meaning?
"All is fair in love and war."
Is it? For the most part, people can do whatever they want. Nothing is stopping them. Yeah, sure they might have to deal with the consequences later.
But what is fair to you might not be fair to the other person.
Is it fair to have an affair? Well maybe to you. Maybe you needed a break from the everyday as your wife was struggling with the grief of her dead mother. But was it fair of you to turn your back on her?
You can be persistent when it comes to winning a person's heart. It is only fair that you exercise your freedom of speech regarding how you feel. But it is not fair to the other person, when you don't respect their right to say no.
So do you worry about fairness for yourself or the other person?
Is it? For the most part, people can do whatever they want. Nothing is stopping them. Yeah, sure they might have to deal with the consequences later.
But what is fair to you might not be fair to the other person.
Is it fair to have an affair? Well maybe to you. Maybe you needed a break from the everyday as your wife was struggling with the grief of her dead mother. But was it fair of you to turn your back on her?
You can be persistent when it comes to winning a person's heart. It is only fair that you exercise your freedom of speech regarding how you feel. But it is not fair to the other person, when you don't respect their right to say no.
So do you worry about fairness for yourself or the other person?
Friday, January 13, 2006
Timing.
Timing is everything.
If you want to get married, you have to find a guy who wants to get married. You know, a guy who already has the house and career he wants. Find a guy who is happy where he is in life.
If you find a guy whose upgrading his education or thinking about moving to a new city then run, even if you seem to be perfect for each other. This guy is too busy thinking about himself and isn't ready to make decisions as a couple. Unless you're willing to make some sacrifices for him and he's willing to let you, it will never work out.
If you want to get married, you have to find a guy who wants to get married. You know, a guy who already has the house and career he wants. Find a guy who is happy where he is in life.
If you find a guy whose upgrading his education or thinking about moving to a new city then run, even if you seem to be perfect for each other. This guy is too busy thinking about himself and isn't ready to make decisions as a couple. Unless you're willing to make some sacrifices for him and he's willing to let you, it will never work out.
Thursday, January 12, 2006
Stupid.
Why is it when you run into a cute guy, you're always doing something stupid, like buying a donut? (Girls aren't supposed to be seen eating sugary, fattening foods after all).
Wednesday, January 11, 2006
Weight
When it comes to maintaining my cat's weight, it is easy. All she gets is one cup of dry cat food every day.
Why can't it be that easy for humans? But when there is so much variety, and when restaurant portion sizes are always too big, and eating is such an important factor in our social gatherings, it is not that easy to maintain one's weight.
But if only it were simple . . .
Why can't it be that easy for humans? But when there is so much variety, and when restaurant portion sizes are always too big, and eating is such an important factor in our social gatherings, it is not that easy to maintain one's weight.
But if only it were simple . . .
Tuesday, January 10, 2006
Take your time
"Remember life is too brief and too beautiful to rush through it all out of breath." - Life's Little Instruction Calendar - Volume X1
Guess what I got for Christmas?
Guess what I got for Christmas?
Monday, January 09, 2006
Post-boxing day realizations
On-line boxing day sales are not a good idea.
You order all this stuff because it is super cheap, but it doesn't get sent to you right away because the store is out of stock.
Then when it is finally in stock, and you get sent your order the shock of the low prices has worn off and you realize you just received a whole bunch of stuff you don't need, and, sometimes, don't really want.
You order all this stuff because it is super cheap, but it doesn't get sent to you right away because the store is out of stock.
Then when it is finally in stock, and you get sent your order the shock of the low prices has worn off and you realize you just received a whole bunch of stuff you don't need, and, sometimes, don't really want.
Saturday, January 07, 2006
Hot or Not?
"Sex appeal is 50 per cent what you've got, and 50 per cent what people think you've got" -Sophia Loren
Friday, January 06, 2006
Awkward Moments
I hate those awkward moments when you run into someone from high school you didn't get along with.
That person you don't like has to serve you in a store. And they know who you are because your name is on your credit card. You know who they are because they have a name tag. But yet you both don't acknowledge that you know each other.
The transaction goes smoothly. But nothing is said about high school.
What are you supposed to say: "I haven't seen you since high school. You used to be such a jerk back then. What are you doing now? Oh, working here. That's great."
When you get back into your car you double check to make sure the person gave you back your credit card.
That person you don't like has to serve you in a store. And they know who you are because your name is on your credit card. You know who they are because they have a name tag. But yet you both don't acknowledge that you know each other.
The transaction goes smoothly. But nothing is said about high school.
What are you supposed to say: "I haven't seen you since high school. You used to be such a jerk back then. What are you doing now? Oh, working here. That's great."
When you get back into your car you double check to make sure the person gave you back your credit card.
Thursday, January 05, 2006
Wednesday, January 04, 2006
Ogre Days!
Do you ever have one of those days where you sleep in? You leave the house knowing your hair is a mess and your clothes are a wreck. You spend the whole day looking and feeling like an ogre. And you can't wait for the day to be over so you can hopefully have a better day the next day.
Tuesday, January 03, 2006
Revenge
Remember, when talking to the ex, even when you are miserable, you have to make it look like your life is going well.
Like a good public relations person, put a positive spin on your life's circumstances. Everything is going great.
Smile, appear happy and rub what you can into their faces. Appear unphased when they tell you they are getting married next week.
The goal: Make them feel jealous. Make them feel like it's their loss.
Even if you don't ever want to date them again, even if you hate them for everything they did to you, you have to be the bigger, better person in an effort to add to your ex's pain.
Like a good public relations person, put a positive spin on your life's circumstances. Everything is going great.
Smile, appear happy and rub what you can into their faces. Appear unphased when they tell you they are getting married next week.
The goal: Make them feel jealous. Make them feel like it's their loss.
Even if you don't ever want to date them again, even if you hate them for everything they did to you, you have to be the bigger, better person in an effort to add to your ex's pain.
Monday, January 02, 2006
Depression
Why is it when we are depressed we feel the need to call up the ex to see how they are doing?
We secretly hope they are more miserable than we are. Instead they are doing great. They couldn't be better. They are in a new relationship and having fun. It's sick.
If they were feeling miserable do you think they would admit it?
Not to you. Not for one second.
So why do we torture ourselves?
We secretly hope they are more miserable than we are. Instead they are doing great. They couldn't be better. They are in a new relationship and having fun. It's sick.
If they were feeling miserable do you think they would admit it?
Not to you. Not for one second.
So why do we torture ourselves?
Sunday, January 01, 2006
Commitment Phobes
I wonder if this quote from Rob in "High Fidelity" is telling of how men's fear of commitment actually hinders them.
"I can see now I never really committed . . . I always had one foot out the door, and that prevented me from doing a lot of things, like thinking about my future and... I guess it made more sense to commit to nothing, keep my options open. And that's suicide by tiny, tiny increments.
"I can see now I never really committed . . . I always had one foot out the door, and that prevented me from doing a lot of things, like thinking about my future and... I guess it made more sense to commit to nothing, keep my options open. And that's suicide by tiny, tiny increments.
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