Remember that if you're in a casual relationship, kind of like the "friends with benefits" situation, it's probably not as great as it seems. The other person likely has feelings for you and is living in hope that your relationship will get more serious.
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This is why I think platonic friendships are a joke. They don't work and they don't exist. One person will always end up liking the other person.
But as far as friends with benefits goes, this is a phenomenon I would like to be more involved with.
The friends with benefits situation is fun at first, but trust me, it gets messy.
I've always been a fan of the definition of platonic: "Transcending physical desire and tending toward the purely spiritual or ideal."
One girl I was getting to know would often tell me a "friend" was coming over that evening and we couldn't talk. Yep, friend with benefits. It seemed kinda strange that I was getting to know this person yet she was banging some dude on the side. She claimed it was totally platonic.
pghcitiboy,
That kind of gets into the whole debate over at Mad Dater's blog. She's discussing if you should be jealous of your significant other's friends.
Do you trust them when they say: "this is so-and-so, my platonic friend?"
No, and would you? I don't want to shake hands with some "friend" of her's who's been sexing her up. It just seems wrong! And you know they are still going to be friends...
But at the same time you don't want to be the possessive "you can't have any male friends" boyfriend.
Yes, she has male friends. Most girls do. But she isn't sleeping with all of them.
The thought might have come up over the years of friendship, but it was a flicker of a thought, and never discussed.
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