Friday, May 04, 2007

Marry me.

Once women get into their late 20s the pressure to marry begins to increase.

A girl's grandparents, if still alive, will complain that they'll never have great grandchildren. They ask the priest to say a special prayer during mass for their single granddaughter.

A single girl will start hearing crazy cat lady jokes from her friends . . .

Even today, when a woman is capable of supporting herself, there is still a lot of pressure for a girl to get married. And if she can do it before she is 30, the pressure's off.

If she makes it to 50 with no ring, all bets are likely off.

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

Yeah, it makes me think all progress is fake or just something to do while perpetuating the same old stereotypes and expectations of old. -Fez

Anonymous said...

Thankfully, I have a wonderful group of single friends my age and older.
When one of our friends or acquaintances bites the dust, we take bets on how long the marriage will last.
I don't feel any pressure... I feel sorry for people my age that get married.

Anonymous said...

Is there such pressure for a guy? My grandfather keeps "joking" when I see him that I'm 34 and need to find a woman soon and have a kid. Geesh! Of course that is the "old school" of thought when back in the day you did get married in your early 20s.

Anonymous said...

That's one of the greatest aspects of being 40. I've been married, I have two great kids, I have the house in the burbs.

If I ever get married again, and I certainly feel no desperation to do so, it will be because I'm head over heels crazy in love with someone, and not because I feel any societal pressure to do so.

Anonymous said...

Fez, society is all about perpetuating the same old stereotypes.

MJ, it seems you do have the best of friends.

pgh, you were married in your 20s. Weren't you?

Shangri la, you are very lucky.

Anonymous said...

yup.i even feel that slightly, but no pressure at all. besydes im on my early 20s.but ive noticed that it is ironic. when we were in our teen years we are prohibited to a part of a serius relationship but with our late 20s, they hurry us to find a partner in life...

Anonymous said...

Hi everyone,
This is my first comment here, so you can say that I am new here.

Well regarding the pressure,I completely agree with you.

According to me right age for marriage is when the person is ready to handle the responsibilities.
So, our parents and especially grandparents must understand us.

Anonymous said...

kristine anne - you're right it is ironic

Smita - I couldn't aggree with you more. "According to me right age for marriage is when the person is ready to handle the responsibilities."

Anonymous said...

I too agree with Kristine but You cannot deny that one should be mentally and emotionally ready for the marriage.
It is a great responsiblity and one must be mature enough to take them.
Why you don't agree with me, the dating life?

Anonymous said...

I do agree with you Smita. You have to be ready for love in order to marry. ie. mature enough, etc.

You just misunderstood my previous comment.

Anonymous said...

Ok, no problem. It's just that I wanted to understand your philosphy.