Friday, January 27, 2006
A word of caution
"Bad habits are sticky. Be careful what you touch." - Life's Little Instruction Calendar, Volume XI
A friendly affair
Can men and women just be friends?
I suppose they can, but that doesn't mean the thought of sex with their friend has never crossed their mind.
Be honest! Have you ever thought about sex with a friend of the opposite sex and then went "nah!"
Just because you haven't, doesn't mean they haven't.
Your friend will never admit that they have either.
I suppose they can, but that doesn't mean the thought of sex with their friend has never crossed their mind.
Be honest! Have you ever thought about sex with a friend of the opposite sex and then went "nah!"
Just because you haven't, doesn't mean they haven't.
Your friend will never admit that they have either.
Thursday, January 26, 2006
Sitting, Waiting
If you are single, female and want a challenge, try to live a full and eventful life without thinking about dating.
Liz Tuccillo, former "Sex and the City" writer and co-author of "He's Just Not That Into You," suggests that we do this.
What Tucillo is implying, but not saying is, if we focus on perfecting ourselves and push dating out of our mind, we will one day be unexpectedly blindsided by our true loves.
"We don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out," writes Tucillo.
Liz Tuccillo, former "Sex and the City" writer and co-author of "He's Just Not That Into You," suggests that we do this.
What Tucillo is implying, but not saying is, if we focus on perfecting ourselves and push dating out of our mind, we will one day be unexpectedly blindsided by our true loves.
"We don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out," writes Tucillo.
Parking Violations
I work in an office building that is isolated in a residential area.
There is not enough parking around our building, so today I had to park super far away.
Later, I found this typed note on my car:
"Could you please find somewhere else to park as we have no place to park when we get home from work. Our family have 4 different cars, so we don't think you would appreciate this in front of where you live. Thank you!"
My first thought was to go knock on this family's door and tell them "Tough luck! It's public property!" And from there I would tell them to go to hell.
Then, I was irritated by the poor grammar and punctuation found in the note. Can you spot the mistakes?
And by the way, there was parking available in front of and behind my car.
Should I be sympathetic to their situation? Maybe. I'm not the first one at my work to get the note.
But still suck it up. I would never put a note on someone's car, even if they took my preferred parking spot.
There is not enough parking around our building, so today I had to park super far away.
Later, I found this typed note on my car:
"Could you please find somewhere else to park as we have no place to park when we get home from work. Our family have 4 different cars, so we don't think you would appreciate this in front of where you live. Thank you!"
My first thought was to go knock on this family's door and tell them "Tough luck! It's public property!" And from there I would tell them to go to hell.
Then, I was irritated by the poor grammar and punctuation found in the note. Can you spot the mistakes?
And by the way, there was parking available in front of and behind my car.
Should I be sympathetic to their situation? Maybe. I'm not the first one at my work to get the note.
But still suck it up. I would never put a note on someone's car, even if they took my preferred parking spot.
Wednesday, January 25, 2006
Idols
When it comes to shows like American Idol, its popularity is not necessarily based on singing. We'll watch the show, but when it's all over we won't buy the CD. After all how, many winners have gone on to have successful music careers? Not many.
We watch American Idol because the kids are chasing their dreams. Many of them don't stand a chance in hell of ever making it, but they are naive and will still chase those dreams. Others will go on to realize those dreams.
We all have dreams and that's why a lot of us watch the show. Maybe we don't want to be a singer, but we want to become something. On a subconscious level, we identify with those kids on American Idol.
We are all trying to develop some sort of talent. When we expose what our dreams are and pursue them, we become vulnerable. We can be criticized and shot down like the kids on the show.
But it is the kids who take that criticism and say: "Yeah, maybe I could use some work" and then go and do what it takes to improve. Those are the kids who succeed - the ones who never give up, the ones who use criticism and rejection as a chance to get better.
Of course, sometimes if you can't sing, you just can't sing, and you have to give up on singing. But that doesn't mean you can't work with music in some other capacity. Life should be about making the dream work, somehow.
We watch American Idol because the kids are chasing their dreams. Many of them don't stand a chance in hell of ever making it, but they are naive and will still chase those dreams. Others will go on to realize those dreams.
We all have dreams and that's why a lot of us watch the show. Maybe we don't want to be a singer, but we want to become something. On a subconscious level, we identify with those kids on American Idol.
We are all trying to develop some sort of talent. When we expose what our dreams are and pursue them, we become vulnerable. We can be criticized and shot down like the kids on the show.
But it is the kids who take that criticism and say: "Yeah, maybe I could use some work" and then go and do what it takes to improve. Those are the kids who succeed - the ones who never give up, the ones who use criticism and rejection as a chance to get better.
Of course, sometimes if you can't sing, you just can't sing, and you have to give up on singing. But that doesn't mean you can't work with music in some other capacity. Life should be about making the dream work, somehow.
Drinking
Apparently, a lot of people like to consume alcohol during the early stages of a relationship.
Alcohol takes the edge off and helps get the ball rolling, so to speak.
I guess dating is so uncomfortable in the beginning we can't do it sober.
What would happen if we didn't date and drink? Maybe a lot of relationships wouldn't happen.
Perhaps it is sad, but true?
Alcohol takes the edge off and helps get the ball rolling, so to speak.
I guess dating is so uncomfortable in the beginning we can't do it sober.
What would happen if we didn't date and drink? Maybe a lot of relationships wouldn't happen.
Perhaps it is sad, but true?
Tuesday, January 24, 2006
Hanging Out
What girls really dislike are the beginning of relationships where guys just hang out with them on unofficial dates. The guy could questionably be interested in her. And their hanging out time could be seen as a date.
The girls want to seem casual so they don't ask where the relationship is going and the guys don't want to take responsibility for any feelings being developed.
And, if the relationship does not get off the ground, the girl wonders if the guy just decided that he didn't like her? Or was he too chicken to ask her out? Did he eventually give up? Did she not help him along enough? Should she have asked him out herself?
Hanging out time is confusing and frustrating for girls.
The girls want to seem casual so they don't ask where the relationship is going and the guys don't want to take responsibility for any feelings being developed.
And, if the relationship does not get off the ground, the girl wonders if the guy just decided that he didn't like her? Or was he too chicken to ask her out? Did he eventually give up? Did she not help him along enough? Should she have asked him out herself?
Hanging out time is confusing and frustrating for girls.
Point of View
Why is it that someone can comment that they are having a bad hair day, while you think their hair looks the same way it looks everyday, which is not necessarily bad.
What merits a bad hair day for them on that particular day if you think their hair looks the same as it always does on any day?
Individually, we do not view the world in the same way that others view the world.
What merits a bad hair day for them on that particular day if you think their hair looks the same as it always does on any day?
Individually, we do not view the world in the same way that others view the world.
Monday, January 23, 2006
Great Expectations
I think, if many of us girls lived our dating lives by books like "The Rules" or "He's Just Not That Into You," most of us would never have had boyfriends ever.
Okay, maybe the guys we date aren't that into us. But maybe they are just clueless about proper dating etiquette. Men aren't reading these rulebooks.
Okay, maybe the guys we date aren't that into us. But maybe they are just clueless about proper dating etiquette. Men aren't reading these rulebooks.
PAIN RELIEF
Why do injuries feel better after we put a bandage on?
I suffered a karate injury where my toenail was cracked off like a walnut shell. Painful? Yes.
But for some reason it felt better when it was wrapped in gauze and taped up.
Bandages must be psychological pain relievers.
I suffered a karate injury where my toenail was cracked off like a walnut shell. Painful? Yes.
But for some reason it felt better when it was wrapped in gauze and taped up.
Bandages must be psychological pain relievers.
Sunday, January 22, 2006
Egos and Icons
The hardest thing to do is deliberately hold yourself back.
This means evaluating yourself and deciding you are not ready to proceed forward.
I had a karate test this weekend. But I opted not to evaluate because I knew there were things that I still needed to work on.
This was a difficult decision to make , especially when there is pressure from up and coming students that are racing to catch up and pass you in rank and ability. That doesn't mean I can't recatch up and pass them again later.
Rank is associated with ego. The faster you can advance the more you can hold over your daily opponents. (The people you train with).
But rank isn't what karate is about. Karate is a life-long journey. It is a sport that allows you to work at your own pace. If you want to learn, ego should be put aside.
Besides if you know you are not ready, why embarrass yourself by trying and likely not succeeding. Instead it is better to kick yourself for not working hard enough in order to have been ready and then vow that you will be ready next time.
This means evaluating yourself and deciding you are not ready to proceed forward.
I had a karate test this weekend. But I opted not to evaluate because I knew there were things that I still needed to work on.
This was a difficult decision to make , especially when there is pressure from up and coming students that are racing to catch up and pass you in rank and ability. That doesn't mean I can't recatch up and pass them again later.
Rank is associated with ego. The faster you can advance the more you can hold over your daily opponents. (The people you train with).
But rank isn't what karate is about. Karate is a life-long journey. It is a sport that allows you to work at your own pace. If you want to learn, ego should be put aside.
Besides if you know you are not ready, why embarrass yourself by trying and likely not succeeding. Instead it is better to kick yourself for not working hard enough in order to have been ready and then vow that you will be ready next time.
Saturday, January 21, 2006
Race Notes
Why do we always feel that we have to race and compete against everyone else?
Is life really a race against other people?
If someone younger than you has a better job than you, and makes more money than you, you suddenly become unhappy with your own situation.
You're older. How come you're not as successful as them?
But it's hard to compare yourself to other people, especially since we don't all start from the same place. Some of us take longer to find the right path.
It's more about the journey and not about the destination.
If you have to work harder, or it takes you a long time to get somewhere, when you find your success, you'll probably appreciate it more.
The important thing is not to give up.
Is life really a race against other people?
If someone younger than you has a better job than you, and makes more money than you, you suddenly become unhappy with your own situation.
You're older. How come you're not as successful as them?
But it's hard to compare yourself to other people, especially since we don't all start from the same place. Some of us take longer to find the right path.
It's more about the journey and not about the destination.
If you have to work harder, or it takes you a long time to get somewhere, when you find your success, you'll probably appreciate it more.
The important thing is not to give up.
Friday, January 20, 2006
Patience, child!
One of my karate instructors always says: "Patience is a virtue and a strategy."
But in everyday life patience is difficult.
I think a lot of us are hard on ourselves. When we don't accomplish what we want immeadiatly, in a day or a week, we get frustrated.
I constantly have to remind myself that I couldn't climb Everst in a day. It's impossible. The same holds true in everyday life. Things take time and you can't complete them until you are ready.
But in everyday life patience is difficult.
I think a lot of us are hard on ourselves. When we don't accomplish what we want immeadiatly, in a day or a week, we get frustrated.
I constantly have to remind myself that I couldn't climb Everst in a day. It's impossible. The same holds true in everyday life. Things take time and you can't complete them until you are ready.
Thursday, January 19, 2006
Romance
"When men attempt bold gestures, generally it's considered romantic. When women do it, it's often considered desperate or psycho." - Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City
Failure
Over the last several years, I've learned a lot about failure.
(Failure is such a dirty word).
When you fail at something you must decide: "How badly do I want this?" I was once pursuing something I thought I wanted, but failing in that pursuit woke me up to what I really wanted. After that failure, I dramatically changed my life's direction. That said, that failure is still too embarrassing and painful to talk about it, even though it got me on the right path. Very few people know about it.
Failure is also a wake up call. I've been studying the martial arts for a few years. When I went to grade for my brown belt, I thought I was so great. And then I failed the test. I was the only one in my group who failed. Talk about humiliating. I was angry and frustrated. My ego was shattered. I got over it and worked my butt off. I redid the grading and I passed. My karate is better than it's ever been, but I wouldn't have realized I needed improvement unless I failed.
Failure sucks big time when you're in the process of failing. But when you get some distance from that failure, you realize it happened for a reason.
(Failure is such a dirty word).
When you fail at something you must decide: "How badly do I want this?" I was once pursuing something I thought I wanted, but failing in that pursuit woke me up to what I really wanted. After that failure, I dramatically changed my life's direction. That said, that failure is still too embarrassing and painful to talk about it, even though it got me on the right path. Very few people know about it.
Failure is also a wake up call. I've been studying the martial arts for a few years. When I went to grade for my brown belt, I thought I was so great. And then I failed the test. I was the only one in my group who failed. Talk about humiliating. I was angry and frustrated. My ego was shattered. I got over it and worked my butt off. I redid the grading and I passed. My karate is better than it's ever been, but I wouldn't have realized I needed improvement unless I failed.
Failure sucks big time when you're in the process of failing. But when you get some distance from that failure, you realize it happened for a reason.
Wednesday, January 18, 2006
Just do it
It has been said that asking someone out is like tearing off a bandage.
The quicker you do it, the better.
Just blurt it all out.
But unlike a bandage, which stings immediately, the pain of asking someone out will come much later.
The quicker you do it, the better.
Just blurt it all out.
But unlike a bandage, which stings immediately, the pain of asking someone out will come much later.
Just do it
It has been said that asking someone out is like tearing off a bandage.
The quicker you do it, the better.
Just blurt it all out.
But unlike a bandage, which stings immediately, the pain of asking someone out will come much later.
The quicker you do it, the better.
Just blurt it all out.
But unlike a bandage, which stings immediately, the pain of asking someone out will come much later.
Tuesday, January 17, 2006
Bad Advice
I just heard an unusual conversation between two women in their late 20s.
One of them had never kissed a guy before and she wanted her first time to be with someone special. She also didn't want to be subconscious about her first kiss.
The other woman told her to ask one of her guy friends if he would practice with her, just so she could get over her fears.
The non-experienced woman thought this was a good idea and started thinking of guy friends to ask.
I wanted to yell: "No. That's a bad idea. What the hell are you thinking? You'll ruin your friendship by just asking."
One of them had never kissed a guy before and she wanted her first time to be with someone special. She also didn't want to be subconscious about her first kiss.
The other woman told her to ask one of her guy friends if he would practice with her, just so she could get over her fears.
The non-experienced woman thought this was a good idea and started thinking of guy friends to ask.
I wanted to yell: "No. That's a bad idea. What the hell are you thinking? You'll ruin your friendship by just asking."
Bad Advice
I just heard an unusual conversation between two women in their late 20s.
One of them had never kissed a guy before and she wanted her first time to be with someone special. She also didn't want to be subconscious about her first kiss.
The other woman told her to ask one of her guy friends if he would practice with her, just so she could get over her fears.
The non-experienced woman thought this was a good idea and started thinking of guy friends to ask.
I wanted to yell: "No. That's a bad idea. What the hell are you thinking? You'll ruin your friendship by just asking."
One of them had never kissed a guy before and she wanted her first time to be with someone special. She also didn't want to be subconscious about her first kiss.
The other woman told her to ask one of her guy friends if he would practice with her, just so she could get over her fears.
The non-experienced woman thought this was a good idea and started thinking of guy friends to ask.
I wanted to yell: "No. That's a bad idea. What the hell are you thinking? You'll ruin your friendship by just asking."
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